What is it that we all want so very badly when things go south in our lives or we’re just looking for more?
Answers.
We want someone to tell us how to make shifts and changes that will make the shit in our lives go away, make us more successful, more connected to our real selves.
Strictly speaking coaches don’t do the advice thing. Our role is to help you find your own answers.
That being said, there are things that I was told at different points in my quest for mo-joy that totally got me rocking the diy ass-kicking.
And honestly, I don’t know for sure why it helped for me to actually hear someone tell me these things, over just coming to the conclusions on my own. But it did, and they landed in the right place at exactly the right time.
Maybe they’ll hit for you too.
Be you, whatever that looks like, and put it out into the world. I never thought of myself as being particularly special or different in any way, I figured that I was just like the next woman. So not true. This is the true authenticity that we yak about tons on this blog. Once you know what makes you unique down to your core, that thing that is so you, fly your freak flag high! I don’t care if you think it’s weird or you’ll be judged by others. None of that will hurt more than hiding the real you.
Be afraid, but keep going anyway. We all get worried and scared of change, of looking like an ass, of being alone. It never takes very long for women I work with to figure out what scares the shit out of them and why. I get it, fear has been my boss at tons of life crossroads and I could always clearly articulate that. But then what? You can only let your fear run roughshod over your life for so long, then it gets really old. Be scared but be brave too. Don’t let the fear fog cloud over what you know is your pure desire. Take action, any action, to move toward that desire. Even if it means you spend the whole time deep breathing.
Use the Universe. Believe that what you want will be delivered to you. And it’s more than just wishing and hoping, it’s truly trusting that you can and will get what you want. I used to think that was total woo-hoo, now I live by it and use it to manifest lots of lovelies in my life. It’s the mindset of being in the mode of receiving, being open to the goodness you freaking deserve, and taking actions that feel good instead of feeling forced or out of alignment. Like the words from 50 Shades…what are you waiting for?
Defining it will keep you on track to making it happen. I used to move from worry to worry without ever really having a plan, not anymore. Even during times when you think you have “kick me” stamped on your forehead, having your course mapped out gives you something to stay true to, making decisions easier and worry less. Start with what you want in each area of your life, how you want to feel, and go from there.
Btw, all these messages came from different coaches that I’ve had over the years. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Lynnette, Andrea, Jeanna and Susan. You have rocked my world.

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