Hey diy Ass-kickers!

The other day someone left a comment on my CML Facebook biz page about a post.

That post happened (oh my gosh!) to have used the f-word, not once but TWICE. (Second oh my gosh!)

I believe the actual text in the post said “Unfuck yourself. Be who you were before all that stuff happened that dimmed your fucking shine.

And here is my paraphrasing of the sarcastic comment…

“What a great way to influence our young women. Seriously???”

Is anyone else seeing the irony here? Dimming? Shining? Anything?

It’s not the first time that people have taken exception to my choice of language, the worst one I ever received said they were ashamed that I was Canadian, because I swear. Talk about hitting me in the patriotic girl-junk.

Years ago, that shit bothered me.

But now I simply delete comments that are rude, judgmental or negative toward me or to the audience who follows me. That audience is with me because (for whatever reason) they appreciate the theme of becoming stronger and more like themselves. The selves that have gotten lost and are yelling to be remembered.

Comments like those are not about empowering women or accepting women for who they are, even if they are different from us. They are dimming comments, not shining comments.

And I gotta tell ya, not letting shitty comments get under my skin is far more satisfying than either feeling badly about myself, trying to figure out how to please everyone over myself, or getting into a pissing match with the commenter.

I wish them well and hit that delete button.

Because I’ll not be shamed by the use of my choice of language or any of my behaviour. Period. And I will not allow my followers to be shamed into conforming to social expectations that damn women for living however they decide to live.

It really boils down to this. We are all entitled to set our own boundaries. But we are not entitled to attempt to control anyone else’s.

And never should we allow a wagging finger or a shameful message make us change one fucking thing about ourselves, and the younger we get that message, the better.

PS: here’s what’s front and centre on my personal Facebook page. If you don’t like it, don’t fucking friend me.


And if you do, feel free to post it on your Facebook page!