Hey diy Ass-kickers!
It’s funny.
Most women that I have worked with hate drama. And yet, most of them are mixed up in the middle of it somewhere, desperate to get out.
He said, she said, they did this and thus, I couldn’t believe it, it was rude and I felt attacked, there she goes again, how dare he, I don’t deserve this crap.
That’s the drama story for a lot of women, seriously tons of them.
Drama like that is about blame. And you can blame others all you like for creating drama, but it’s not going to change a thing. How can it? Blame is simply your opinion of someone’s behaviour that is rarely complimentary.
Result? The drama continues, and your time/energy get sucked even farther down the toilet than it already has.
If you hate drama as much as I do, it’s time to woman-up. Because if you are involved in drama, I have to be butt honest with you.
It’s all on you, sister!
Moving out of drama or avoiding it entirely only happens when you trade blaming for taking responsibility for your own actions and behaviours.
That means acknowledging that each person in your life is an individual with their own needs, wants, beliefs, and behaviours. All that is on them, not you. You’re not here to fix them or cut them down for being different from you.
It means being honest and upfront with others, not talking about other people or their stuff, thats for them to share.
It’s accepting that other people can have opinions and those opinions are none of your business.
It’s understanding how your own behaviour may have kept the drama going. Its opening up your vulnerability tap and sharing what your experience is from a place of non-judgement.
It’s about picking up your courage and saying you are sorry…and mean it.
And doing all that with people who you actually want a relationship with. Not all relationships are meant to be. If they don’t work, don’t keep them.
And last, it’s about being ok with making mistakes and starting again.
A little exercise while you are sitting on the beach. (It’s summer for pete’s sake, you are sitting on a beach, right?) Try taking a random guess at the number of times you have been part of drama of some sort (either directly or indirectly). Multiple that by the number of hours of worry, anger, resentment, and wasted time you spent on the average one. How big might that number be?
Drama is for tv and the movie theatre. It’s not for diy ass-kickers like you.
Deal with it.
