Hey diy Ass-kickers!
Seriously, how loud can you be?
You’ve got something to say, right? Don’t you want people to hear you?
Of course you do.
But sometimes it’s not as easy as we think it should be. Sometimes there are things that just hold us back from standing up, speaking our mind, and being proud of what we are standing up for.
Have you ever walked away from someone or something and wished that you’d said such and such? Maybe played it out in your mind?
If we are feeling at all uncomfortable, it’s tough to be that woman who has her confidence by the balls and steps into the ring for herself.
But it becomes less tough when you use your deep core to back you up.
Start here, honey.
Think about the situation and what’s important about it to you. What’s being wronged? What is fantastic? What is it that is calling you to speak your mind? What do you feel in your gut is right, for you or for humanity as a whole?
See, that’s where your confidence lies. Right there with what you feel in your deep core is important and right. Ok, you may still need to take a few deep breaths as you pull your butt out of the chair to interject your thoughts and opinions but it is significantly easier when you know why you are needing to speak your mind.
Get to know your whys. They’re called your values. They belong to you and reflect who you are to the world as long as you let them.
Write down 5 of your values right this second, off the top of your head. (My top ones are love, respect, honesty, family and acceptance but dig deep to come up with ones that resonate with you.) Now consider scenarios where you honour your values and where you don’t. How do each one of those scenarios leave you feeling?
Now plan out how you might stand up for those amazingly clear values. What might you be saying yes to and what might you be saying no to? Where do you think your values need some help being heard?
So when you are shaking about taking that stand, sharing your thoughts or opinions with other people who may or may not agree, remember that there is no competition in the field of honouring one’s values. When you are speaking from your values, you are NEVER wrong.
You are simply sticking up for what is important to you.
And the world needs a shit load more of that.
Dianna xo
Ps If something is going on for you that you’re feeling particularly held back from stepping up to, post it on my Facebook page (in general terms of course!) and I’ll help you figure it out!
