Hey diy Ass-kicker
Values are important because they define why we do what we do, how we do it, and when/where we do it. Given the chance, our values can lead us to do things that can literally make us feel like a rock star.
Getting to know our values is an incredible journey, it’s your path to understanding how you tick. When you know what’s guiding you from the inside out and make decisions based on that, you engage in activities and behaviours that will feel right to you and life gets that much sweeter!
Of course, the human experience includes relationships with others. It may sound obvious but it’s where we women can drop the ball.
Why is it tougher with relationships? Because knowing your values calls you forth to be transparent about them. It’s one thing to work in an industry that won’t offend your values, it can be quite another to step up for what you know is true about you with another human being. Relationships are all about accountability to one another, right?
And stepping up for ourselves in relationships is risky. You risk the chance that they may not stay in your life, or maybe you don’t want them to stay. It may seem safe to stay quiet but its never safer than standing up for yourself and doing what you need to in order to honour your personal values. Risky business for sure.
We women can often get tripped up by past traumas, inner mean girls, and our sense of our own worthiness. Those things can put up big walls between us and our values, making us leave them on the back burner. While none of those things are worth not honouring your own values, relationships demand that two people express themselves deeply and ask for what they need in order to grow in love. That can’t happen when part of you is hiding.
Maybe you’re worried about a relationship right now, or more than one. Maybe you’re in a relationship that needs a values top up. Either way, you’ve got your entire deep core (where your values live) that can guide you to understanding why things aren’t feeling right to you and what you need to do about it. Either way, here is a little tip as you dig deep into putting your values into practice.
Values go both ways.
If you value acceptance, you will feel better if you accept others was much as you expect to be accepted.
If you value love, you will feel better if you give as much love as you expect to get.
If you value forgiveness, you will feel better if you forgive others (and yourself) as much as you expect to be forgiven.
And so it goes.
Time to drop and give me your top 5 values right now. Yep, before you even finish your coffee. Then take a time out to ask yourself if you are actually honouring them.
Or you’re not…
Dianna xo
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