How sexy or un-sexy are you feeling right this minute? And where did your mind immediately go when you searched for your answer?

Feeling sexy is an amazing feeling that takes me to a bit of a Zen place. It’s a place where I feel confident, strong, courageous and brave.  Sweet!!

Feeling un-sexy is a very different place. It’s lonely, depressing, and isolating.

It makes us question our value and puts our self worth in the toilet.

We feel less-than, our self care goes out the window, and most of us start to numb out our feelings ‘cause thinking that we aren’t sexy is kind of a tough one to face. Hello numbing agents.

We stop making decisions that support us and help us grow, and start looking outside of ourselves for what will make us feel sexy again.

But looking for those feelings outside of ourselves doesn’t work because our sexy doesn’t live there. I know because I’ve been there too.

It’s no surprise that we think our sexy lies somewhere else. Look at the clear messages that the media gives us about sexy being purely visual, telling us that if we look sexy, we will be more attractive to others and therefore be more successful and happy. 

(I’m gagging right now, btw.)

Let’s face it, they want us to believe that sexy for women is all about the cleavage and the firm ass.

That’s exactly why women lose their sexy all the time.

How do you hang on to something that is so fleeting and judgmental and self-depricating?

How do you hang on to your sexy when you are constantly measuring yourself to someone else?
I think your sexy lives in you. I think it always has and always will.


Let’s find our sexy and take it back!

Let’s feel the confidence that comes from loving ourselves with deep compassion, feeling all our feelings without judgment, making our decisions based on what makes us feel loved.