How’s it going? Are you getting what you want from the holiday season so far?
This is often when we start to panic just a bit, maybe even waking up in the night with the to-do list running through our heads. Will I be ready? Do I have enough gifts? Do I have the right gifts? Will Uncle Peter show up with inappropriate jokes? Ughhhhh.
It’s not that we don’t have our shit together. We are simply afraid we might disappoint someone, or look less than the loving, caring person we are. We judge ourselves and keep ourselves in the loop by trying harder to please people.
The truth is, our goodness isn’t even remotely based on how perfect we bring the holidays together or how good our Christmas cookies are.
Our goodness is us.
Bringing ourselves to the festivities without the attachments of human expectations will not only keep us feeling whole, it will allow us to show up for others in ways that honour them too.
It’s you shining your inner light, and giving others permission to do the same.
So take some time for you, even if you’re not “ready”.
Make your intuition, your inner knowing, your guide for decisions about what you will do and how you will do it.
Ask yourself how you want to feel and let yourself sink into that feeling.
Let how you want to feel be your guide word (or words) for the season. Mine is peaceful.
Stay in integrity with your feeling and your guide word throughout the season, when make choices about what you do and who you do it with. If something doesn’t feel aligned with your word, do what does.
Remember that this is an amazingly beautiful, loving, and peaceful season.
Don’t miss it by fussing all the details you know inside are just fillers. They won’t make you feel like a better person, but they will leave you feeling exhausted and unfulfilled.
Go back to how you want to feel, sit in it, enjoy it.
Watch the snow fall.
Enjoy the lights.
Listen to the music.
Decorate your space as you like it.
Bake or cook what feels good to you.
Buy gifts in line with your budget.
Hang out with people who feed you, not deplete you.
Let people be who they are, with judgment or drama.
Give yourself a loving gift of showing up for you, as you.
And say Merry f*cking Christmas to yourself, because when you show up as you, you give others permission to do the same. Imagine showing our daughers that they can be themselves and make choices that serve them. Now that’s a beautiful gift!
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