You’ve probably figured this out by now.
I’m a huge supporter of women (and men) making choices for themselves. Choices that leave them feeling satisfied, fulfilled, and whole.
If I asked you right now if you are 100% honouring yourself in your decisions, consciously choosing you, what would your answer be?
I’d really love to know. Who doesn’t need more unconditional love?
I totally get it and I’ve been there, we don’t always honour our own inner needs. Sometimes we find it easier to make choices that others expect of us so we don’t rock the boat or piss anyone off.
That’s what’s happening when we stay quiet instead of speaking up for ourselves when we need to. That’s what’s happening when we agree to do something that we know doesn’t feel 100% right for us. That’s what’s happening when we ignore our health and wellness when we “choose” to help someone out.
There is no real choice in any of those examples, they are simply ways that we have learned to be accepted, loved and safe. Ultimately, we ignore the healthy, voiceful choice, which is where real self-acceptance, real self-love, and real safety reside.
I don’t know where you are with your voiceful patterns and habits, but I gave up putting anyone before my own need to be whole a long time ago. It was probably the healthiest thing I could have done for myself and for those around me.
Sometimes it’s not pretty when we’re tolerating our own hushed or silenced voice. That voice still wants out and can look like us being bitchy, emotional, and reactive. In truth, the energy of voice only wants to experience more of our real selves.
Ready to make some conscious choices that serve you? Here are some ways to begin. Practice one, practice all. Your choice. 😀
-Keep close tabs on your body. Notice what you’re feeling and where you’re feeling it. A self-honoured body doesn’t feel unnecessarily anxious or tense or have out-of-the-blue bowel issues. Get used to checking in with your body regularly, your physical symptoms and your emotions will easily guide you if you are listening to them.
-Check in with your heart space. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and connect where you know your desires live. Desires are anything that warms that heart of yours. Ask yourself if you are meeting your own inner needs, and if the answer is no or not enough, look at the patterns you have created for yourself that keep you from getting those desires met. Among other things, your awareness will increase and help you create a solid foundation for making choices that serve you.
-Grab a journal, a paper one or a digital one. Don’t censor yourself, just start writing about what life would be like for you if you made all your choices based on what serves you, your health and your wellness. Draw the picture, make the list, create the flow of your future life so you can more easily replace negative influences with positive ones.
-Buy the dress. Take the trip. Do the work. Eat the life-sustaining food. Show up as you. Honour yourself as a holding of deep appreciation and love for each part of you.
When we make a choice that serves our heart, our body, and our soul, we not only get our needs met but we are also aligned with our inner needs. As a continual practice, tension is released and we can feel the healthy flow of our human existence. Our sweet spot.
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