Letting go = joy

Hey diy Ass-kicker!
Man, there’s a lot to let go of in this life.
Letting go is about carrying something with you that is simply not joyous. Things that get, and stay under your skin. And those things don’t need to be earth shattering to anyone but you.
Any of these sound familiar?
The partner who doesn’t quite get the gift right, or forgets the date altogether, or the person who behaves like a dick by weaving in and out of traffic at 50 kms past the posted speed limit.
The relative who does things so differently from you that you wonder how they could possibly be blood or the boss who had the opportunity to praise your work, but didn’t.
The store clerk who was less than courteous to you when you were trying to be pleasant or the plan that you have had for so long that the Universe just isn’t giving in to.
News flash. None of these situations, or anything else that drags your joy down, requires fixing. But they do require action on your part and here’s why.
“Whomsoever may torment you, harass you, confound you, or upset you, is a teacher. Not because they are wise, but because you seek to become so.” -The Universe
I’ve had to learn to let go the hard way, by hanging on for dear life to my position. You may know that position well, it’s the one where you’re absolutely convinced that you are right.
But here is what I have learned about hanging in to the less-than-joyous.
People and circumstances, even the shitty ones, come into your life for a reason. They offer you something that is intended to help you learn and grow in an area of your life that needs a diy ass-kicking.
Some plans, even dreams, may not come your way as you expect them to. Sometimes they get shifted around, sometimes they are changed up completely. And that usually happens when we focus so much on the exact outcome that we forget to recognize how much of what we want, we already have.
Hanging on to expectations of how things or people are supposed to shake out feels nothing less than crappy. Even the times when you think it feels better to be pissy with someone to make a point, if you’re not aligned with your own values, it will still feel crappy.
​​​​​​​Time to let it go, baby!
Start by detaching yourself from the personalization of others behavior. Honestly, shitty things coming from others is their stuff, not your’s. Drop the need to fight back or fix it.
Then check in with your deep core. Ask what have you learned about yourself and your needs. What has been missing for you and what can you do to fill the gaps for yourself?
Do your own inner work that allows you to walk with your head held high, full of an inner peace and lightness. Your body and soul will thank you.
And joy is waiting for you.