The Voice Wound 🤐

Unfortunately, using our voice doesn’t come naturally to very many of us walking this planet.

Think about why you don’t always use your voice. What’s in the way?

What’s the fear that arises in your body when you know you need to stand up for yourself?

I think there may be more women and men who struggle with their voices than those who don’t. It all depends on how unscathed we have come through our lifetime, how much wounding we’ve experienced and how much healing we’ve been able to offer ourselves. True inner healing, not to be confused with numbing or simply wanting comfort. Been there and it doesn’t work.

The voice wound becomes real when we believe that we are less than who we know we really are. That’s when we can’t stand up for ourselves, even though we desperately want to. And each time we don’t, we ingrain the message that we are less.

The original wounds themselves are not things that we have any control over. They come from our ancestry, our family upbringing, and any trauma we’ve experienced. We don’t own those wounds, we just are left with the fallout from them.

But wounds heal and we can shift into places where we feel more confident and capable than the messages those wounds have taught us.

BTW…Those messages are shit, plain and simple. And I say that confidently because we are infinitely powerful. We are never what someone else makes us believe. We are, no matter what, whole beings who come from a place of pure unconditional love. As tough as things can get, please never forget that.

So what’s Job #1 in our healing?

It’s taking radical responsibility for your experiences. Not just certain experiences, all of them. Not just the fun ones, but also the experiences that we face when we’re feeling those wounds, or when we are treated in ways that are not reflective of the whole, unconditionally loving beings we are.

Why is this the first step to using your voice? Because we’re not used to choosing our experiences based on what we need. We’re conditioned by the voice wounds to pay more attention to what others think about us, what they need from us, and what they expect of us.

That leaves us scrambling at lots of crossroads. Which way do we go? What do we choose? Why do I feel like shit when I agree to do something that I’m not aligned with doing but still do it?

When we take radical responsibility for our own experiences, we choose experiences based on what we need first. Yep, I said it. We must choose ourselves first, which makes sense because always doing what someone else wants will never give us the kind of experiences that will tip our scales from being silenced or quieted, to saying no to what doesn’t work for us and saying yes to what does.

And pretty soon, making choices that serve you will come as naturally as when you were first born and needed a cuddle. 🙂

Taking radical responsibility for all our experiences is something that is part of all my programs below. Please reach out if you’d like to chat about it.

If we’re trying to get our voice back, we have to start there. Without taking reresponsibility, we will sit where we’ve been perhaps for some time.

You are always welcome around my table, sweet woman. No one has to fall to their voice wound forever.

Allow me to walk you into a new way of living, one where your head is held high and your heart is in your hands.