This is real life

There is plenty of strategic communication advice on Google. I believe that the best communication comes from the heart and the deep core, a simple but effective principle that has worked for me. And while I don’t always get it right, here is what I know.
It’s about going with your heart and your gut and talking about the elephant in the room. 
It’s about knowing what your intentions are in communicating with someone. Knowing if you are truly looking to share your experiences or if you are looking to make yourself feel better about something.
It’s about doing your own work and being crystal clear that you are completely without judgement and have the full intention to do no harm. To offer yourself as a stepping stone for awareness perhaps but not to devalue another person’s worth. 
It’s about doing all that with the purest of pure love.
Then you walk away. You leave it alone. You leave it with the receiver with the love that sends them all the wellness that is solely their’s to determine.
It’s also about getting it wrong sometimes, the words, the message, usually accompanied by a sharp tongue or a defensive approach. 
That’s the real life part. Let’s face it, much of the world communicates that way on a daily basis.
Because in the middle of the human connection that we all crave so very much is the instinct to jump in head first, without much armor aside from a shit-ton of emotion.
Sometimes when that happens you need to turn these tips on yourself. Use your heart to guide how you respond to your behavior. Get clear about your truthful intentions. Be truthful about your judgements. Decide where love is stronger than all of that and apologize if necessary.
Shit goes down and it doesn’t feel nice. But avoiding the tough talks doesn’t serve anyone. Neither does beating yourself up about it. And truthfully, the more you practice honesty from a heart-felt place, the better you get at it.
Remember…
Offer and let go.
Offer and let go.
Offer and let go.
And continue to love the other person and yourself with all of your heart and soul. 
That’s how we grow. That’s how we support others. That’s how we heal and support healing. 
That’s communication from your deep core.