Ya, you know it.
Cupid can be a jerk.
Why you say? He’s so cute and all!
He is cute but not cute enough to get past a diy Ass-kicker.
Cupid’s job is to connect people to love. He simply uses his arrows to shoot someone, probably in the ass, and we are supposed to be smitten. Forever.
The whole thing assumes that we have no ability or responsibility to make our own version of happily ever after. So let’s talk about that.
First, there is no forever if we don’t make it so. And even then, it’s only forever for us. We can’t control anyone else’s forever, even if we are married to them.
Next, we can always show up with forever love for ourselves anytime we want. Yep, if you’re not quite there yet, it’s gonna take a bit of work on your part, but self-love is totally doable. Tweet that! What that kind of love looks like for you (or me) might not fit with Cupid’s intention, but he seriously needs to sit his butt down.
Forever love for us means we treat ourselves with all the whole-self goodies out there…love, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness…and we supply the push we need to take action that can make our relationships kick-ass. I’m talking all relationships here, not just the romantic ones.
And that means that we stand up for ourselves and question what we want and actually need from our relationships, and only reach for what rocks our boats. Walking away from a bad relationship is loving ourselves too.
We make sure that new people we start a relationship with are bringing to the table all those things that you honour in yourself. This isn’t about different opinions or perspectives, that happens all the time. It’s about people who display behaviour that for whatever reason, doesn’t feel right to you. You’ve done the deep core work to know yourself, now trust your judgement.
We make our ongoing relationships better by talking about our needs, our desires and our joint relationship goals. Again, not just with lovers, but with family members, friends and even neighbours! Talk, talk, and talk some more. Share your inner most desires and listen to theirs. Ask the question… ”How do we make our relationship even better than it is today?”
Here’s what I’d like to see. (Besides the lovely woman reading this knowing herself well enough that she does it all already!)
I’d like to see Cupid bopping around shooting self-love into people and letting them figure out who they choose to be in a relationship with and what that relationship looks like.
All by themselves.
Cool, huh?
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