If you’ve followed me for awhile, you’ll know about the 3 parts to finding your voice that I teach my clients and other healers.
- Take full responsibility for how you feel.
- Learn about and accept everything that truly resonates with your heart and soul.
- Consciously create experiences for yourself that align with you.
After decades of doing this work, I know those 3 points will never change. It’s the path to us being true to ourselves, the foundation of true self-resilience.
What comes into your mind when you read them? Can you comfortably embrace them and integrate their meaning into your life with courage and consistency?
I ask those questions because I know that intellectually we understand them but living them is much harder.
I totally get it, life is not static. It offers us lots of corners and cross roads where we have a choice to make. The sauce we humans live in is thick with things that don’t require us to be true to ourselves, only that we follow the socially defined plan for us.
Do we take the soul-sucking job because the one that feels meaningful is too far out of our range?
Do we tolerate things from people that we know don’t resonate with us because it’s too scary to change things up?
Do we keep doing for others because we think that’s the kind of love we want in return?
Do we let our voices be quieted or silenced in any way, when that voice is our instrument to being 100% true to ourselves?
These moments aren’t all reserved as “fuck you” moments, although if that’s where you’re at, I honour your path. These moments are about us taking the time and space to make conscious choices. Do we honour what we know to be true for us, with all the love and compassion that is also part of us? Or do we hold a slight grin on our faces as we agree to what we know doesn’t serve us, letting our own misalignment with ourself build up each time?
I’ve done both, and now know that being true to myself is the only answer that will keep me happy and healthy, and open to all the goodness the world has to offer.
I’m offering these questions/journal prompts for you to connect to your own experience of silencing, whether it’s a little or a lot.
Are you able to be and stay true to yourself? Or do you waver a little or a lot? Journal on what being true to yourself looks like.
Are you present in relationships and conversations, knowing fully what you are available for and what you’re not available for? Journal on your strong and happy life where you fully express what you are and are not available for.
Are you able to express your own truth 24/7? Journal on your life being full of honest self-expression.
Are you clear about who you’re repeatedly challenged by when you try to honour yourself fully? Journal on how you feel when you honour yourself fully.
What are the subtle or not so subtle triggers that pull you away from yourself and leave you quieted? Journal on how your keep yourself strong when you are triggered.
