Happy Mom’s Day!!!
Today is a day to celebrate moms and what they mean to us. I’m talking to my mom all day today and recalling all the things she taught me about mom’ing…and yes, I’m sure that mom’ing is a real word!
I hope your loved ones honour you today, and every day for that matter. I hope they express to you, in real life non-Hallmark words, who you are to them.
I’m expecting that it will be lovely…even with doing things differently thanks to Covid19. I expect to see all the over-the-top things that people are doing for their moms on Facebook and the heart-felt tributes on Insta.
But I’m curious.
What do you actually do to be the mom you want to be and are you clear about why you do them?
Because how you mother is not always instinctive. Sometimes it’s built on how your mom mothered you, good or bad. Sometimes it’s built on comparing yourself to social media moms. And sometimes it’s built on guilt, on avoidance of criticism, or even on the fear of walking your own path.
The good news is that even in the face of some of those triggers above, you still get to choose how you mom. Even if you have no children of your own, needing and wanting to mother and care for others is part of our makeup, so you are likely spreading that shit around to friends, furries, relatives and neighbours too. We are all natural caregivers.
You can start making your own mom choices by connecting with your deep core Inner Goddess to see what’s driving how you mom’ing. (And if you don’t know how to connect with your Inner Goddess, I’m hosting a free class soon to learn and practice so watch for it!) And ask these questions…
What are the parts of you that need honouring so you feel full as a mom?
What do you feel compelled to do as a mom, or you might just die? (Dramatic perhaps but that can be how strong the mom-kid bond feels!)
Why are those things important to you?
This is about your deep core values. Think about why you do what you do as a mom in ways that are a self expression of who you truly are, not as a demand from others, from society, or even from yourself.
And if you find that some things are coming from demands, consider mom’ing yourself through them (or find me for coaching) until you can set them aside while you do all the things that are truly only about being the mom you are inside.
You really can’t be a mom-fail when you operate from you.
Now go eat cake, virtually hug, and watch Bad Moms…..
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