From allowing to flow

I’m a people-watcher. I did tons of it during my travels. Observing is one of my favourite pastimes.

We learn much from watching what is happening around us. Our role as an observer is one of the most powerful tools we have in our healing toolboxes. As life moves past us, we get to take in elements that can support our lives and remove those that will do us harm.

But before we can be really great observers, we need to learn to allow. Allowing is the practice of accepting things as they are without judgment or the desire to change them.

Tough for many of us to do. Our roles as natural nurturers have changed over the years. We will judge and try to change others who “need” to change because it’s what we have become conditioned to do. But trying to change someone or expecting them to do what we think they should do totally messes with our flow. (To say nothing of how it messes with others!)

What’s our flow? There are much deeper spiritual meanings to being in flow, but in a practical sense, flow is the state of being we can adopt that trusts that we are safe as we are, that we are fully responsible for showing up as our soul’s calling, and that we can use our inner or outer voices to express ourselves when something resonates with us or it doesn’t. When we mess with anyone else’s life, even if it’s just passing judgment on them, we’re not in flow. We’re too busy letting our thinking minds take over our heartspaces.

I used to be great at drama, judging, and feeling like crap about it later. Here is what moved me to change.

• I no longer wanted to feel crappy, I wanted the experience of looking at people through the lens of unconditional love and compassion.
• I recognized that judging others was really a judgment of myself, giving me plenty of opportunities for self-reflection.
• I wanted the calm and peace that came with being in my own flow state.

Reach out and tell me about what your flow state looks like. How did you get there? What had to change in your life to get you to your flow?

Most importantly, how does it feel?

Mine feels magnificent!