Have you ever actually stopped to ask yourself, “How do I want to feel today?” It’s a simple question, but it’s a must-ask if you want a life of joy and contentment.
Hopefully, you already ask yourself every day how you want to feel. I try to do just that as part of my morning routine. Ask me how I manage my morning routine as it’s been on a bender the past few years and it can’t figure out what it wants to do!
Obviously, if we want to feel good, we need to choose and express our desire for experiences that leave us with those feelings. And what do we need to express our desire? Our strong, sometimes loud and even inappropriate to some, voices. We’re all good, though; thankfully, this isn’t a blog about being appropriate.
Can you say off the top of your head your best 3 experiences that you know will leave you feeling good? I’m talking REALLY good, like joy good or bliss good.
It seems like a simple thing to do, but is it? What about when we don’t actually believe that we can feel good or deserve to feel good? What then? Giving ourselves permission to feel good often has a bucketload of history, trauma, and way outdated beliefs about ourselves attached to it. Meaning, it’s not always easy to choose ourselves or to say what we want that will give us that feel-good experience.
Yet, feeling good is really all we need to be.
We get so caught up in the work, the laundry, the trauma, the drama, the political climate, or the neighbour’s cigarette smoke drifting through the window, (oh wait, that last one is my beef), that we forget there is more to us than who we think we should be and keeps us focused on things that don’t make us feel good.
The social conditioning that tells us what to do to be a good person doesn’t come first in any lifetime. We do. We set the standards of what being a good person is from our understanding of our authentic selves. We get to choose ourselves over the human sauce any day.
Feeling good is the key because, inside, we are all good people, so why waste precious time being a puppet or doing things that leave us feeling less than good?
Our job here is to be the light, whatever that means to you. And what do we do with that light? We let it shine through us and invite others to shine as well. It’s like dominos, except instead of falling, we’re picking people up. That’s how we support this crazy-making world of ours through some of the toughest political times in my lifetime, and perhaps yours too.
But first, we need to prioritize feeling good.
We can think positive thoughts and embrace positive emotions.
We can recognize that not everything we feel is meant for us; negative energy comes from many sources, and we can learn how to help move it along.
We can cultivate a mindset that allows us to move through our challenges (because we all have them) with self-trust and resilience since we have a deep connection to our true selves and know who we are.
We can use our voices to say exactly what we need to have those good feelings.
If you find it hard to say yes to amazingly love-filled experiences that feel good or no to experiences that seriously don’t cut it, let me know. I believe in the power of self-honour and emotional healing, and I think you likely do too. This is a good time to figure out what’s holding you back.
So, how do you want to feel? Take a moment right now to reflect on that question and consider what you can do to align your life with those feelings. That’s the first step on the journey to feeling good.
If you want a motivational song to help you self-reflect? Try the Sheepdogs song “Feeling Good”, it’s a go-to for me.
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