When the shit hits the fan

What do you do when the emotional shit hits the fan?

And let’s be honest here, it always does at some point.

Maybe it’s a random Tuesday and you’re cruising along, feeling pretty good, when suddenly—bam! Something knocks you sideways. It could be a tough conversation, a wave of old grief, a mistake you inadvertently made, or just one of those days when everything feels heavier than usual. A slow build or a tidal wave, you’re left gasping for air and for your voice, wondering if you’ll ever get either of them back.

Here’s what I know: those moments are not a sign that there is anything wrong with you. On the contrary, they are a sign you’re expanding. Energy is arriving for you to allow you to more closely discern your inner truth.

Energy is everything, and we all feel energy differently. Empaths, as an example, can struggle greatly at times, since they feel their own energy plus that of other people, plants and animals. But rather than live with a hate-on for what we are feeling, it’s time to use that energy to our benefit.

When the shit hits the fan, it’s not time to crawl under the covers. It’s time for deep self-reflection. Because avoiding the messy doesn’t work; what does work is walking through it without losing yourself and your voice, and learning how to use the energy for growth and to keep your vibration high.

I’ve certainly had my fair share of emotional shit kickings. Being voice-challenged, (therefore being reliant on people and circumstances outside of myself) meant that most things felt like a shit kicking. I would shove my feelings down, distract myself with not-so-great fillers, or just let it pass while pretending I was fine, letting my physical body take the hit.

What I’ve learned is that when the emotional shit hits the fan, you don’t have to fix it, for you or for anyone else. But you can engage with it to understand why it’s with you and what you can learn from it to increase that beautiful wholeness you are. You don’t have to get it all right away, but you can hold space for what the energy has to tell you.

Meditate on the energy. Let yourself acknowledge and feel what you’re feeling. Sit with the feeling, wherever it is in your body. Hold it, thank it, and ask why it’s with you. It could be something as simple as you becoming clearer on what’s important to and for you, and what isn’t.

Grief shows us how deeply we can love.

The devastation of our environment shows us how we can support Mother Earth.

The physical or emotional pain we take in from others can show us how we can expand our own love and the best way we can support them going forward.

The poor treatment of you or of others shows us how we want to show up as our best selves going forward.

When the emotional shit hits the fan, take a pause and breathe. Ground yourself deeply in your favourite way. Remember that this is your energy, and it’s with you for a reason, so get up close and personal with it.

When life feels overwhelming and your voice goes quiet, know that you can always come back to yourself. You can always start again. And if you need a little extra support, my Activate Your Voice intuitive session is open for you. We’ll talk about what’s coming up, where your voice gets stuck, and how you can find your way back to your truth, no matter how chaotic things feel.

With so much love for a loud, strong voice!