Screw all the mind games and speak up anyway!

Let’s get real for a bit.

When was the last time you felt your voice catch in your throat, or you felt fear or anxiety deep inside your body when you wanted to speak up?

Maybe it was with a boss, a parent, a partner, or even that friend who always seems to have the last word. People in authority or perceived to have control over us can definitely trigger us to zip up.

Hesitating like that happens to all of us sometime or another. Our voices get stuck, and we simply can’t express exactly what we want and need to say.

Instead, it whispers, “What if you upset them? What if you’re rejected? What if you’re just wrong?”

You know I’ve been there before — heart pounding, words swirling in my head, but nothing coming out. And when the words did come out (as I was taking up residence in my head), the message was never quite what I wanted it to be.

I used to blame myself, but no more. Because when we dig into it, we find that it’s all about how people who scare the voice out of us leave us feeling and how we can help ourselves.

Let’s stop concentrating on the people, the words, the relationships, the power dynamics, and the old stories we carry from childhood or our past; they allow others to make choices for us. And we don’t need anyone doing that.

Here’s the thing: we can choose how we feel. We can choose to tell fear to go for a hike. We can choose to say thanks but no thanks to the shit running through our heads that give us a false understanding of our own ability and worth.

You are the boss of yourself here. You can take action to remove the elements from your life that make you feel bad, or you can notice and thank them, and move forward.

Every time you make the conscious choice based on what you need, want and desire, even if you’re worried, you chip away at any fear and you show the world that your needs, your boundaries, and your truth matter.

What would it feel like to finally say what’s on your heart?

Screw the potential of disrupting the relationship, if they are meant to be in our lives they’ll get it.

Screw the power we think they have over us, because we hold all our own power.

And screw the old stories we keep letting play in the background of any decisions or choices we want to make.

Remember this. Your voice is real, and it’s needed by you and by the world.

Let. It. Out!