When have you felt clear about what you need for your physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health?
And, how many times have you ended up bailing on the thought, the desire, or the plan, ignoring your own inner guidance?
I’m quite familiar with bailing on myself; at one time, it was a regular activity for me. I used all the excuses why it was ok not to follow through on something that I knew was a good thing for me. And the more I let in the previously programmed thoughts over the brilliance of my own inner guidance, the easier it became to avoid myself and my own needs.
This is us hiding from our own inner voices.
We’re not hiding for the fun of it; we’re hiding our tender hearts that dare not show themselves. We learned that in this lifetime or in previous ones, quiet means safe.
Knowing what we need and not feeling safe enough to receive it makes any follow-through for ourselves tough. Being silenced from fear is not something we invited in; it’s not our fault, and it’s not something to be ashamed or embarrassed by. We are not intentionally ignoring ourselves; it’s our learned experience.
Your inner guidance is always better than any trauma response that keeps you in states of ill health. Will you make a promise to yourself to consciously avoid the same old dance?
Your journal is one of the best tools to separate your inner guidance from your hiding behaviour. You can simply become an observer of the experience.
Write about your inner guidance, write about the fear and where it comes from, and write about the growth that can come from understanding the whole picture, including the urges to ignore your own needs. Move it from inside you to the paper, noticing the path that feels more healing, even if it’s scary.
If you’re struggling to take that step, try this: find a quiet spot, close your eyes, and ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Listen for the answer, write it down, and make a tiny move toward it—just one. Even the smallest action is a win.
Self-honour is something that is one of the most difficult things for us to achieve. There is always a reason to ignore ourselves for someone else’s needs. Sadly, women do it all the time, even though we have all made promises to put ourselves first.
Trusting our inner guidance is hard to do sometimes, especially when fear is on the other side. Each attempt will take us a step further into our own individual sovereignty.
Self-honour is non-negotiable. Every time you listen to your own needs, you reinforce that you matter. It’s not selfish—it’s survival. Don’t do it for someone else. Do it because it’s the only way to stay true to that inner sacred promise you made when your soul arrived here.
Consider that regret is heavier than fear. The discomfort of action is temporary; the sting of regret can linger for years and reinforces that fear always wins.
Your inner voice is your compass, and your honest outer expression will lead you to the life you want. When you speak or act from your inner truth, you can’t go wrong. You are always guided to a deeper inner connection, real healing, and real experiences that you know will support you.
We already know fear intimately. Now it’s time to get to know our inner selves better. Join me on the other side.
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