The other day, I came across this short, fun video on YouTube with a dad checking in with his tiny daughter about her lipstick. Watch it if you want a big smile!
Yes, I laughed at her cute little kid pronunciations and the “lipyik” she had over much of her lower face. But I actually cheered when she answered her dad’s question about who she asked to use the “lipyik”.
Her answer…. “I asked myself.”
OMG! I love this kid! At such a tender age, she knows that she is her own boss!
Maybe her soul knows something we’ve forgotten.
We’ve all spent time looking outside of ourselves for our answers, direction, validation, even our acceptance and love. Some of us are not always completely aware of it when it’s happening, but deep inside, we always feel the misalignment that it leaves behind.
Still, it feels like the safer route to take. We tell ourselves that it’s just easier, that we don’t want to disappoint anyone or cause a fuss. We don’t want to piss someone off who may be used to having their word be gospel for those around them. (No judgment here, habits are hard to break for everyone.) We get sucked into the belief that what others think is more valuable to us than what we think.
Remember your inner self? The one who gets ignored when a stronger, seemingly more powerful person leaves us feeling less than. I know I’ve talked about this before on this blog, but it’s worth repeating, like a million times. The wild thing here is that your inner wisdom is all you really need. Seriously. That quiet voice inside? It’s got your back, even when life feels messy and loud.
I’ve learned that lesson the hard way and know that trusting my own wisdom is the difference between feeling lost and feeling grounded. When I ignore it, I wind up second-guessing every decision, replaying conversations in my head, and feel like I’ve just sold myself out … again.
But when I listen to my inner self, really listen, I find clarity, confidence, and a whole lot more peace. From there, our voices rule, and any rough patches become learned lessons.
Know what I realized that helped me shift back into myself?
That it’s not about the other person, how strong they are, how perfect they are, how successful they are.
It’s entirely about us.
It’s the old stories about not being enough, the fear we’ll get it wrong, the shame when social media shows us what we can’t do, the family that has expectations of us that we can’t meet. All that bullshit drowns out the inner voice.
Here’s a little practice I use when my own inner wisdom feels hard to reach:
- Find a quiet moment (even if it’s just five minutes in the car or the bathtub).
- Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and ask yourself, “What do I really know to be true for me right now?”
- Listen for the answer—not the loud, anxious voice looking for the easiest resolution, but the gentle, steady one underneath all that.
- Write it down. Even if it doesn’t make sense at first, trust that it’s yours for a reason.
Keep breathing, asking, and writing. You will be strengthened, and so will that of your beautiful inner (and outer) voice!
Take the advice of the little kid in the video. Stop asking others.
Ask yourself.
And if you need help, just hit reply and I’ll help you figure it out!
With so much love for a loud, strong voice!
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