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Hey diy Ass-kickers!
It’s time. Christmas is almost on top of us.
And you know what that means. Scrambling around like you’re losing your mind to get things done on time. Worrying if you have enough food, gifts, and likely wine. Being pretty damn exhausted even before the actual festivities take place.
Holy shit!
Then when the day arrives, the visits with family start (if they haven’t already for you), including the weird relatives. Hello drama infused, at times downright fucking crazy, dysfunctional family! Big or little, it’s part of the human experience. You now you got ‘em!
Family functions can take us to a place that we thought we’d left behind. I mean it’s funny how family can actually ignore the side of you that is so competent and adult, and head right for the visual…your weight, your hair colour, the sweater that you may have worn last year, how well behaved your kids are or not (I mean holiday sugar will kick it up for anyone, right?), what you’ve done in the past year that’s worthy of an acknowledgement.
While it’s perfect for a Christmas movie on the Women’s Network, it’s not funny when you let it sink in and take you to a place of wondering about your own value or worth.
Think of it like this. Even though they are related, your family are really just people around you. That’s all. Even if they happen to have an opinion, what that opinion is doesn’t have to concern us unless we let it. It’s only our business when we let it be our business.
Ok, I get that sometimes family can be infuriating and you really wanna dump the eggnog bowl over their heads but that would only get you kicked out before dinner. Never a good idea.
I also get that we expect, and sometimes want to demand, respect from our families. I mean, aren’t they the ones who are supposed to respect us?
On tv maybe, but not in real life. They are human, even though we are blood or married to blood, and some of them just won’t get it. And we’re not changing anyone or their behaviour any time soon.
If members of your family are truly that disrespectful toward you, it’s time to manage how you survive it. Think strategies that keep you spending more time with people that you enjoy, or be prepared with how to answer the embarrassing questions from Aunt Ruth. You know what will work, it’s your family.
And remember that if you don’t think you can manage it, it’s your prerogative to rethink attending this year. If you know that you are going to feel worse about yourself coming out of that function then you did going in, why put yourself through it? Remember that this is about how you want to feel, not about blaming those assholes that make it impossible for you to go to dinner this year. That’s a waste of energy that you can put elsewhere.
So either run for the fucking hills or put on your big girl pants…those really cute ones with the sexy holes down each side!…and walk in with your head held high, knowing that you can manage your expectations so you leave with your makeup intact and capable of driving. All you really need to do is love them.
And while you are thinking about surviving the family get together, consider this. Maybe it’s not your own worth that is in question for you. Maybe you are just disappointed.
Disappointed that they don’t get it, or you. That their view of you is so skewed. That no matter what you do, you just can’t make them see that.
You are the one, the only one, who can change how you feel. Thank the goddesses, would you seriously want your sense of self to be determined by a loose canon with no boundaries that you see once or twice a year? NFW!
Maybe when you think about disappointment, you’ll come up with some awareness that will serve you and help you make some welcome changes to your life. Because you want to.
So give yourself the gift of getting connected to that amazing deep core of yours and ask it about resilience.
And take a shot of it whenever you need it.
I have tried many different shots over the years, and I can tell you that reliance shots leave you feeling way better in the morning!
Big love and a peaceful happy holiday to you and your’s, darlin!
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