Self-rescue and learning from my love

Hey diy Ass-kicker!
I was having a chat with my love the other day, you know, one of those wonderful talks over coffee in the wee hours of the morning before anyone gets up and turns on too many lights!
My guy is a very sensitive man and we are (for the most part) on the same page with matters of importance to humans especially women since we raised two of them. So I love it when he expresses insights that make me think. Here’s what he said.
“If we lived in the right kind of world, women wouldn’t need a man to rescue them.”
We all know that as much as we work in this world to right patriarchy, shaming behaviour, abuse and emotional neglect, there is a shit ton of things that need to change in our world to make it an equitable and therefore a healthy place for us. And yes, as much as we might scoff at needing to be rescued by anyone let alone a man, when you don’t have the strength, the confidence, the economic security to say no to any kind of male support, we take it.
That’s what went through my mind when he spoke. My immediate response was to say that if we lived in the right kind of world, we wouldn’t need to rescue ourselves either.
But we do need to rescue ourselves. Our happy lives depend on it.
There may be shit still going on in our world, but how we internalize it and how we let it play itself out for us is up to us. To name a few ways…we might not be held back by social pressures, public or private shaming, or our sense of our own value.
Am I being too dramatic to call that self-rescue?
Nope. I don’t think so.
Self-rescue may be a little thing like learning to say yes to something that feels so very right to you. Or it may be something much bigger like taking the leap to leave your long term relationship that is simply not working. Or how about learning to take care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually so you’re in your peek shape.
How much you relate to the term self-rescue or not, or what you’ve done (or will do) to rescue yourself doesn’t really matter.
Those things are entirely up to you and your amazingly accurate deep core.
You just need to start asking yourself where you need to start in order to be the YOU that you sometimes wish you were.
I ask myself similar questions all the time to keep on my own track.
Maybe you could put self-rescue on your holiday list this year?