What do you say when someone asks how you are?
Fine. Ok. Meh.
Seldom do we say how great our life is. Why?
Some of us don’t want to be seen as bragging. Some of us are afraid to be bold and jinx it. But most of us don’t say great because not every part of our life IS great, there are downs too.
It’s easy to say that a job promotion is great, that new love is great, or that new house is great. And everyone would get that. Things like that are the ups.
But life’s downs are always seen as negative, uncontrollable, and there just to mess you up. Like when you lose the new job, get dumped by or never meet the new love, or can’t afford the house of your dreams. No matter what you do, there is no avoiding them.
So we land somewhere in the middle.
Meh, boring. Because when you neglect to recognize the downs in a way that support you, you negate so much goodness of the ups. And you miss one hell of a life lesson.
It’s time to look at the downs as self-teachable moments and not in a “It could have been worse so I should be grateful” kind of way. That’s self-shaming, not self-teaching. And remember that shame never made anyone feel better, let alone got rid of a shitty circumstance.
Self-teaching is you taking a good, hard look at whatever hand you have been dealt, ups or downs, and ask yourself what you can take from it to help you move forward.
So instead of thinking that your life is pretty good except for those couple of areas where it’s not, decide that those downs may be wrapped in some mean ass ugly wrapping paper but are happening for a good reason.
Because the learning that comes from those downs is what actually makes your life rock.
If you are one of those people who have had the living emotional shit kicked out if you again and again (and maybe having a hard time swallowing this), call me and we’ll talk.
I’ll encourage you to reach inside for acceptance of your down. I’ll challenge you to care for not just your body but also your spirit and soul. I’ll get you looking for the common themes that have emerged over the years from past downs.
And I’ll get you considering that the nugget is that’s been hidden from your plain view all this time could very well be your super power.
Meh is simply not enough for you.
xoxo
Dianna
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