I am so grateful for you, whether you’re a mom or not. By nature, we women (guys and non-binary folks too) are all moms whether we have our own kids or not.
So what’s the “mom” thing? My definition is that “moming” is the art of practicing unconditional love.
But our human conditioning has taught us otherwise. Society has taught us that being a mom is about ignoring the self and our needs for the needs of those we love. We’re taught by the examples of moms that came before us and their moms, by commercial advertising, and by social media that we must be busy, selfless, mama-bear protective, and responsible for both the behaviour and the happiness of those we mother.
Does any of that resonate with you? It sure does with me. For a very long time, I was compelled to rescue, fill gaps for, and live only for my kids. If I could have used my voice, I would have acted on the knowing that I could unconditionally love my kids and unconditionally love myself too.
We know we bleed energy when we show up only for others. That can lead to our kids learning the same habits. I followed what I saw before me and ignored the need to teach others how my own health, self-sufficiency, and self-reliance were valuable tools for me and any human being to embrace. I was too busy believing that I needed to make someone else feel better.
I get that we think we’re acting from that uncondional love, but when we can’t ask for what we need to stay whole, happy, and healthy, we’re acting from a skewed perception of love.
Being voiceless in any way means that we have a need to be shown love and appreciation by others. We actively avoid looking inside ourselves for those things, even though they are right there.
So we keep looking outside ourselves for the love that we really want to feel, when that love lives freely inside of us, waiting for us to acknowledge it and transform from it. And use it to teach others the value of deep self-reverence.
Consider our own alignment and frequency. When we are doing anything that is not fully serving us, we are not aligned and from there the mental, emotional, and physical effects run from mild to deadly. When we’re misaligned to ourselves our frequency is low, meaning we feel like shit.
We’re not on this earth to feel like shit. We are here to feel joy, bliss, and that elusive unconditional love for self and others. From there we stay happy, healthy, and can feel good. And good is good!
How we “mom” is about voice. Get to know yours, its the most valuable tool you have. Voice allows you to express your needs, to yourself and to others around you.
Reflect on why self love and honour stops when someone calls you for something. Spend time getting to know your inner self and learn to make conscious decisions.
While it’s hard to change habits, it’s not impossible. Just start with deciding to honour yourself first thing every day and make each decision based on that intention.
When you consider the need for love today, please take the time to find the love for yourself first.
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