When was the last time that you felt uncomfortable, and I don’t mean when you bought the wrong size jeans. I mean uncomfortable in your body, or in your heart.
What do you do when that happens? Do you assume it’s something you ate or drank? Do you just figure it will go away on it’s own after some downtime, aka sitting in your own negative juices for as long as it takes for it to go away?
Or do you take time to ask you inner self what’s happening for you in that moment?
One of the things that is true for us is, men or women, is that our stress will hold us hostage, and will continue to cause us discomfort, even illness, should we not learn to manage it.
Sometimes we manage our stress by taking it out on others around us. We’ve all had those experiences and they never work, for either party.
So, how do we manage it? Go inside and find your voice!
Being stressed is what happens when we’re scared. You have a voice that you keep hidden inside you. It’s there as a reminder that even if you’re scared, you are still completely whole and capable.
Try taking a dive into why you are stressed and scared.
What happened recently, or even long ago, that left you feeling lousy emotionally, physically or mentally? What did it tell you about yourself? What do you now believe about yourself, and where is it showing up for you today. This is the doorway to feeling better.
How does your own self-alignment challenged? In other words, what happened that simply did not feel right to you, but you thought you had to let it happen anyway.
The circumstance, the person, how good you were feeling at the time, they all make a difference in how we react to an on-the-spot challenge to our wholeness.
I’m using the word challenge as a descriptor. Truthfully, others don’t challenge us at all. They are simply living their lives, perhaps not as we may, but as they choose to. When we experience any sense of challenge, it’s happening inside of us, and we are the only ones who can manage it so we feel good again.
Feeling good is our job. Can you visualize what life would be like if we didn’t get pulled down by others comments, requests, family history, beliefs that don’t serve us, or otherwise interfering behaviour? Holy crap, we would be flying high and loving life as our best selves. Sounds great to me!
So what’s in the way, amazing human?
What’s the one little thing (or more if you’ve got more), that one little fear, that one underlying belief about you that tells you that you’re not worth being true to yourself?
Say it out-loud right now, because you know what it is. You’ve always known what it is. You’ve always known what you don’t want to share because it might be considered stupid, not worth making a fuss about, or not worth the effort to go against the social or family grain.
Talk about it anyway. Write about it in your journal. Heck, write a chapter in a book or write the whole damn book. Find your way, any way that resonates with you and will allow you to look at your experiences clearly, as an experience, not as a place to feel that misalignment again.
Be aware of it, admit it to yourself and let it move through you, not as a shameful thing you don’t want anyone to know in case they judge you, but as a “thank you for what you have taught me about myself”. Your history won’t change, but how you feel about it will.
And that, my dear friend, will open the doors to you making choices that serve you, like walking away from people and circumstances that result in that uncomfortable feeling inside.
You have found your inner voice to use your outer voice.
P.S. Fuck judging, it reflects what’s happening for the judger, not the judgee.
P.P.S. I will be on the sidelines, always, cheering you on. Reach out if you are called, I truly love to hear from women who take that step forward for no other reason than to feel better, exist better, and live better. It’s our birthright.
Life is indeed very different over here.
Are you ready? You know where I am if you need help.
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