Any journey to a better life needs to begin with healing. And the way I see it, healing begins with one big thing…
Self-acceptance.
It’s a really easy thing to say we accept ourselves, but there is a depth to self-acceptance that goes way past what most of us will talk about openly to others or to ourselves.
As a healing process, it calls on us to experience the vulnerability of witnessing the sheer rawness of “us”. Feeling into the initial shame that may hang out with our physical appearance, our behaviour, our mental state, and our emotions, releasing its hold so we can see and own our own inner power.
We practice self-acceptance by looking directly at what and who we are, and being ok with all of it, every single inch.
It’s taking our socially-deemed flaws and deciding that we are good. Not just when we remember that we wanted to accept ourselves, but all the time.
It’s taking our traumas or family history and deciding that we are good. We wouldn’t be who we are now without having those experiences, negative ones too.
It’s taking wherever we are in our life, financially, job-wise, spiritually and more, and accepting that no matter what, we are good.
And then going deeper to the other parts of you that you’re sure are not acceptable. And again, and again, more each day as you see all of yourself. Until you feel good and at peace with your whole self.
When you feel good with what and who you are, the worry about how to be more, ends. The comparisons between you and others that simply feel like shit, end. The body and heart stress and anxiety, ends.
All those things end because you have made the conscious decision to accept your whole self with pure unconditional love. You’re no longer fussing the details, you’re standing in your own shoes as you are and you know whole-heartedly that you are good.
And since conscious decisions are ones you make when you know yourself well enough to know your needs, and you boldly, lovingly, and consistently express those needs to improve your alignment to self, you’ll also be constantly looking at how stay in alignment.
All that is practical magic. You’ll be making decisions that serve you and giving your body and soul the nurturing, love and the honour you so richly deserve.
Self-acceptance is you refusing to hand over control of any part of yourself image to anyone, at any time.
And it’s definitely kicking your own ass!
Ps Hit reply if you’ve got a fantastic self-acceptance practice that works for you!
Dianna xo
