Have you ever have trouble asking for things from other people? Is it hard expressing what you want or need from others?
It used to be super hard for me to ask for what I needed. So I wanted to share this little story with you.
You know about my new co-authored book “The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Vol 2”, right? (Give it a click, I think you’ll love it!)
Well as you can imagine, I’m selling copies of the book from my website which of course requires letting people know about it, asking them to share it’s existence with others, and politely suggest they buy it.
In my heart, I’m good with that since the book’s messages are strong and empowering to women, some of my favorite people on earth!
So I decided I would share about the book to my Facebook contacts via messenger. I tried to make the groups small and categorized them by family, friends, super supportive friends, etc.
But I found myself going back and forth in my mind way too much for my own liking. Should I bother people? Shouldn’t I? Will people be offended? Will they think I only care about them because I want them to buy a book? That kind of horseshit.
After about an hour of shoveling that, I realized that my thoughts were not serving me, and got real with what I know to be true.
I am worthy of asking for support.
I am worthy of making a living from my work.
Others opinions are none of my business.
And, I respect that people, even close friends and family, will have their own take on my offering and make their own decisions about what to do with it, based on their internal filters.
And that all that is ok.
So I built the groups, added a great write up about what I see as the value of this (amazing!) book, and I hit send.
Boom. Done.
Did I feel better about myself afterward? Absolutely.
I stood up for what I know is right for me and for others who I ask for help from.
Some might call is practicing mutual respect, I call it diy ass-kicking!
Dianna xo
