I can still recall a time many years ago, when I truly felt like someone had just punched me in the gut.

There I was sitting on my couch with no energy to move, and the realization that waiting for someone else to fix my “stuff” was not working.

I was giving away my power, piece by piece.

I knew that somehow I needed to stop expecting others to make me feel happy. From a practical place that only makes sense.

“No one can fix us or make us happy, only we can control that”

“Waiting for others to fix us is an avoidance of taking responsibility for ourselves”

“Taking self responsibility (or diy ass-kicking) is fundamental to learning how we rock and roll”

I mean, how do we know what we want and need until we start looking inside, instead of outside?

So, I found a therapist to make sure that I wasn’t completing loosing it. Then I hooked up with an amazing naturopath who helped me balance my hormones (I still work with her on that btw). And I started working with a coach who helped me peel back the layers of why I thought I needed others to fix me instead of relying on myself. (Think childhood messages and experiences.)

What does all that have to do with sexy, you ask?

By getting in touch with ME, I stopped giving away my power. I started to rely on myself to be and do things that made me happy. tweet

And those are the things that also made me feel empowered.

And confident.


Yep, that’s what sexy looks like. Connecting to self so we can call our own shots without being held back by fear or by our own self talk.

Knowing what we want and getting out there and acting on it. And loving ourselves enough to be compassionate along the way.

When I became a life coach, I knew that I needed to teach women how to use their own voice to make themselves happy.

It’s time to put yourself first, no matter what your story is. It’s time to take responsibility for what you want in your life. It’s time to learn how to become your own version of sexy.