I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how some people are able to carry themselves with a clear sense of peace. They take things as they come. They’re never part of drama. They just seem to have peaceful souls.
I love being around those people, and I admire their commitment to living in that space. My new co-authored book “The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Vol 2” is full of stories about people just like that. And interestingly, they’ve all been through their own version of an emotional shit-kicking.
Honestly, I’ve often thought that people who live with a commitment to inside peace make it look so easy. But I don’t imagine that it always was easy. Back to my fellow co-authors, peaceful living didn’t just happen to them by chance, they’ve learned how to kick their own asses, just like we have.
When I look around at the women that I have worked with for so many years (yep, my ass isn’t perky and 20 anymore!), my thoughts go to 2 things that have brought those women great peace inside.
Letting go, and love.
Sometimes we just have to let shit go. Sometimes we have to recognize that things are not as big as we think they are. Sometimes we need to check in with our deep core and ask ourselves what’s behind our sharp reactions to outside influences and decide that we’re not going to let it mess with our insides.
You know I think boundaries rock but they lose their power if they’re used as a way to simply show that we’re tough. Look for the most self-empowering and respectful approach to conflict, and sometimes letting go is it.
And when we apply the love factor to our interactions and lives, we all get a bonus. In this case love is respect, love is acknowledgement of someone’s opinion, and love is understanding that we’re all capable of walking our own paths.
Using love as an overall approach doesn’t mean you can’t hold others to what you know you need. It doesn’t mean that you can’t tell them no, and it doesn’t mean you can’t exclude them from your life. Sometimes when something seriously isn’t working, cutting ties is the most loving thing you can do.
But it does mean that we are kinder, gentler and respectful in getting our needs met, which when I practice it, feels pretty peaceful to me.
There are tons of ways that people get to a state of peace and stay there, just check out the 25 different ways in the book!
What do you think about this peaceful insides stuff? What’s your practice, if you have one?
I think the more we practice what makes each of us more peaceful inside, the stronger we become and the more peaceful our insides will be. That’s before considering what it can do for our stress levels!
Wanna try being one of those people with a peaceful soul?
I’m in.
