When my mother passed on so many years ago, I was devastated. With only 6 months to prepare to be without the woman who grew me, birthed me and raised me, as you can imagine, I was definitely not in a good place.
But I needed to learn how to accept it. Not tolerate it, just accept it for myself.
I get a lot of push back when I talk to women about acceptance. Why? Because they think acceptance means they have to tolerate whatever has happened.
Acceptance is not about tolerating. It’s about allowing ourselves to acknowledge what’s happening around us without any judgement, any force, or any negativity toward ourselves or others.
Tolerating is staying in the game of situations or circumstances that are not healthy or fulfilling for us. Tolerating is hanging on to beliefs about ourselves that simply don’t serve us. Tolerating is thinking that everyone else has control over you and your life.
Acceptance is giving yourself space and time to simply be with whatever has or is happening. Being with that circumstance. Being with all its feels. Being with what it make us think about ourselves and others.
Acceptance takes you out of the game of worry and pushing back, and into a place where you can be fully aware of your own needs and what you can do to feel good about yourself. You don’t have to feel good about a circumstance to feel good about yourself.
Feeling good about yourself means you are open to joy. And joy is where you want to be. Joy allows you to trust that the Universe has your back and that you will indeed be ok.
What do you need to reflect on about something you are tolerating right now?
What would feel better to you to accept rather than push back on?
What can you do to move yourself into joy?
It’s on you, and you’ll love the ending.
Dianna xo
