Woo hoo!! Well, call me excited!
Writing for the Heal of it is gonna be out for registration next week!!!
Email me here or hit reply and tell me you want on the list asap!
Ps You know there will be early bird pricing too, right? Oh ya!
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Hey
So you all know that my next book Find Your Voice, Save Your Life 4, is the stories of men’s transformation, the finding of their voices, their transcendence or transformation, right?
I’ve been spending time with this new group of authors, who all have incredible stories to tell about how they’re doing “life” differently these days. But honestly, the actual stories are just a part of my excitement for this book. What’s the rest, you may be asking??? 🙂
These guys respond to emails and posts with heart emojis and deep gratitude, using kind and loving words. Ya, that actually happens.
Ok, so that may seem like the right way to communicate among evolved humans, but that’s not always been my experience with male colleagues, and I’m guessing that, other than your life partners, it may not be yours either.
These guys are operating from their heart space, plain and simple. They’re truly in touch with their feelings and emotions and are not afraid to be vulnerable and show them. The human connection is vital to them, more than the traditional forms of masculine expression that most, if not all, women have witnessed if not experienced firsthand.
As I fully enjoy the kind, loving and gracious communication with these authors, I am struck by my need to bring down some of my own walls that I have put up to protect me. As a woman I have received countless unwanted messages from men who want to get to know me better, hook up, or even marry me. I don’t engage at all with these men, just delete, delete, delete. My point here is that the authors in the men’s book have created a safe space for me to accept kindness and expressions of appreciation. Their energy is completely different for me, as are their intentions.
I am also struck by the clarity that what we experience as women, the subjectification and power-over that we have been handed for decades by men is learned behaviour. No one comes out of the womb being an asshole. And that’s true for women as well. What we all experience as a result of social influences (including ancestral and other trauma, family history, and our own human experiences) informs our behaviour as adults. Think women who are compelled to be quiet and meet the needs of everyone around them, and men who wouldn’t dare be vulnerable in case they were considered weak.
Ok, I didn’t intend to get this serious but there it is! The message I want to relate?
When it comes to relationships, don’t stop looking until you find the ones that meet your needs, your real needs. Not the ones that you’re conditioned to think are “normal” for us or for our partners. Look for more, look for what you want.
This book is being touted as being a tool for men who want to be more than what society has generally recognized.
I say it’s going to be a tool for women too, women who want to have more than what society has generally offered them.
Dianna xo
