If you were like me as a kid, you had it drilled into you that selfish is bad. That selfish people weren’t nice people. That if you didn’t give, like all the time or at least every time you were asked, you were selfish.
I tell ya, that stuck with me for such a long time, even when I became old enough that it made me uncomfortable.
I’ve always liked living outside of the traditional box somewhat. But given the ingrained messages about being selfish, I rarely gave myself room to ignore the selfish influences and just be me.
It doesn’t really matter what we are dong, when we can’t be ourselves, we become someone else. Someone tired and brain fuzzy at the end of the day. Someone who isn’t able to manage her own energy because she doesn’t think she has the time or the physical energy to stick to a practice or ritual. Someone who hangs on to the emotional high of feeling like we are the best wife, mom, sister, and friend. Someone who feels the anger and resentment build up when others don’t appreciate us as much as we think they should.
Selfish is one mother of a judgement word.
But let’s ask ourselves this…for something that defines us so negatively, why have we taken it on to the degree that it’s now become our definition, our guide, our playbook?
It’s because we’ve allowed the old definition to integrate into our thoughts and behaviours, sinking in a little more each time we follow the status quo while ignoring our own needs.
There is no outside playbook that will ever work for us, that’s just not where our self-alignment lives. The only playbook we need to follow is the one that lives inside of us, down in our own deep core.
So how about we take our own power back…with some affirmations?
Who I am and what I need is inside of me.
I love taking care of myself.
I feel better when I nourish my energy.
Taking care of me first is how I am able to care for others too.
I love paying attention to what my body, mind, and heart need to be and stay strong.
I love giving my body, mind, heart and soul what they need.
I am so worth honouring.
I am on a path to energetic and physical health.
I feel good saying no in ways that respect and honour others and their sovereignty over themselves.
My actions are ones of unconditional love.
Being true to my own alignment is an example for all I connect with.
Up for spreading the message about being true to ourselves, my sweet friend? Share one of these affirmations each day on your favourite social site, titling the posts with…
“I’D RATHER BE SELFISH THAN LIVE IN A BUBBLE OF JUDGEMENT”.
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