What’s your reason for not using your voice?
Is it because you’ve always kept quiet with certain people?
Is it because you don’t want to be challenged?
Is it because you don’t know what to say, think you lack the confidence to speak up for yourself?
The pain point when we don’t use our voice is often thought to be the actual moment we hold back. I think it’s what’s underneath that.
What is it about the person who we have always kept quiet with? How do we feel around them? What gets triggered by them?
What is it about being challenged? What are we afraid of happening? What will we risk if we open ourselves up to being challenged?
What is it about not knowing what to say? Why is it so scary to be ourselves?
Things that hold us back are places to look, dig into, and investigate. Look at your reason, and look again.
What you’ll see will give you some insight into who, when, and what you need to say when you speak up as your authentic self.
Using your voice is all about getting your needs met, not the “I need chips” kind of need, the needs that when met offer you wholeness and fulfillment. Staying quiet when it’s not by pure choice is neither whole or fulfilling.
When you’re ready to do the digging, when you’re ready to stand up for yourself, when you’re ready to live out loud, start looking at what your reason is for staying quiet.
You’ll find something there you can use to get closer to expressing anything you decide to.
Then your question won’t be what’s your reason for not using your voice.
It’ll be what is your reason for speaking up?
Dianna xo
