There’s this thing called honouring ourselves.
You likely won’t find many friends or relatives suggesting it’s easy to honour ourselves, or is even doable. They will tell you, through their words and their actions, that it’s bloody hard and probably can never be fully achieved.
“There are simply not enough hours in a day, and too many things/people demanding my attention.”
My mom showed me that every single day of my life. She never missed an opportunity to do something for us, but to this day I don’t recall her doing much, if anything, in honour of what she needed, what she alone needed, wanted and desired. It was like she was only there to fill the roles of wife, employee, and mom.
So where was Sylvia? Where was the soul in her human that decided to be here to experience the amazingness of life on earth? Where were all the things that she wanted to do, be and experience? Her soul, or that of any of us, would never suggest that we align ourselves to obligation. Yet, Sylvia ran out of time shortly after her 65th birthday.
Her soul never left her side, she kept trying to support her. She talked to her in the reminders that exhaustion began earlier every day. She talked to her in the messages that her body and health were failing. And she talked to her in the realization that she really couldn’t meet anyone else’s needs but her own. Her only real job was to set the example for those around her that she mattered so they knew that they mattered too, and could make their own amazing life choices of joy and of bliss.
We can ALLOW ourselves to have more, to have it all. And we can find and understand what “all” is by looking inside ourselves.
Honouring ourselves is aligning to what we need, want, and desire. You know what’s important to you, and if you don’t, just ask yourself and listen. Your soul will tell you. It may not be in words but you will get the understanding.
Are you allowing real alignment in? Or are you allowing yourself to experience different levels of misalignment like exhaustion, resentfulness, frustration, disappointment, or even illness? Wherever you are is ok, you will shift when you’re ready.
When we allow ourselves to be open to our own needs, wants, and desires, remember that we not only can choose what we do. We can also choose how we want to express our needs, including our language of loving yeses and no’s. And the big one that trips us up more than anything, we can choose what we will do to lovingly support others. Honouring the love, compassion, and kindness in us is always in alignment.
Open up women, to what truly works for us and leaves us feeling good about ourselves, about our choices, and about our lives. It’s an amazing ride!
Let me know how it goes …
