Dianna's Blog

Where you, me and your reality and your awareness, all meet for coffee.

Better or worse is relative

Better or worse is relative

Hearing women short change themselves can annoy me greatly. I was on a Zoom gab with 3 of my sisters recently. When we went around and said how we were doing, one shared some shit that she had been through and made that horrible statement that drives me crazy… “Oh...

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Self-coaching, aka questions we all need to ask ourselves

Self-coaching, aka questions we all need to ask ourselves

I work on the premise that if you never ask yourself questions, you will never truly get to the root of who you are. Questions force us to go deep inside for the answers, and answers create awareness. And well, you know what awareness does for us, right? It offers us...

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What do we do now?

What do we do now?

Wow, what a week this has been! There is such fear and anxiety happening right now, particularly for our US friends. There is worry, there is anticipation, there is wanting to bail and live somewhere else. And there is no ignoring the impact of the political climate...

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A Dozen Ways We Silence Ourselves and Mess With Our Future

A Dozen Ways We Silence Ourselves and Mess With Our Future

My life changed when I realized I had a voice and started to use it.  I know I’m not alone with my experience of not using my voice, so I thought I’d toss out some insight into a few of our behaviours that silence our voices and therefore reduce our chance at the best...

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My path to healing

My path to healing

I knew healing work was my calling. I got into it for a very specific reason. I wanted to ensure that women’s voices were listened to and being heard. At one point, I worked with women who had been physically and/or sexually assaulted or abused. You can’t be heard if...

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2 more women down

2 more women down

This is crazy making! In the past week or so for me, 2 intelligent, thoughtful, amazing women I know have fallen to the effects of stress. And I mean fallen hard. The anxiety, panic, pain kind of fall. The kind where you wind up in emergency because you think you’re...

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The difference between YES and NO

The difference between YES and NO

I promise you. Your life will change completely when you start saying YES to yourself. Why? First, because you were not meant to be unfulfilled. You were not meant to be kept small or unhappy. You were not meant to be silenced. Second, your life will change completely...

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You can’t go half-way, girlfriend!

You can’t go half-way, girlfriend!

************************************** If you missed my invite last week… I’m writing a new book and I’m looking for women with a story to tell about not being able to use their voice. We all have a story, losing our voices can often go hand in hand with being a...

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Here is more to know about using your voice

Here is more to know about using your voice

I’ve been talking a lot lately about using our voices. 

Why?

Because first of all, it’s something that pretty much every woman experiences at some point in her life, including me. Secondly, using your voice is HARD!

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Managing the ahole we call the bully

Managing the ahole we call the bully

Have you ever been bullied? Minus the vision of the group of kids picking on the geek on the school ground. I mean have you been bullied as a grown ass woman who knows her stuff and is fully capable of handling (most) everything that comes her way. People aren’t...

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That shitty grey area

That shitty grey area

What happens when you’re stuck between knowing what you want to say and being able to say it? It’s that shitty grey area where your body, heart, spirit and soul are screaming in defense of the part of you aching for recognition. The part that wants beyond anything to...

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Wouldn’t you rather be paid to be a professional blocker?

Wouldn’t you rather be paid to be a professional blocker?

True fact. We block ourselves from truly enjoying life. It’s not that we don’t want to be ecstatically happy. It’s just that there are so many things that can mess with how we we experience our days. I think it’s safe to say that we all want to enjoy our time here on...

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Does your voice feel free to you?

Does your voice feel free to you?

Your voice. Is it strong and confident? Do you speak your mind, from your heart, from your deep core where you know what you need? Or is your voice quiet? Do you tend to keep your volume to a whisper, flying below the radar of challenges or conflicts, or even from...

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Has anyone actually seen a weasel??

Has anyone actually seen a weasel??

Well it’s still here. Covid I mean. It’s still here, weaselling it’s way into our daily lives and throwing us off our intended game. Even as we begin to open back up to the way things were in our communities, we’re still faced with how we will manage ourselves and our...

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Being self-full, our aligned design, and wearing a mask

Being self-full, our aligned design, and wearing a mask

Meet Kristi Sullivan. Kristi authored Chapter #20, called The Art of Self-Care: Curating Essential Daily Rituals. Kristi helps women thrive in the areas of health, wealth and happiness by teaching busy women how to give themselves permission to make self-care a...

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Self love belongs to you

Self love belongs to you

There’s something about the social messaging about loving ourselves that can feel fake or ingenuine to me. Like it’s this big thing that we’re supposed to understand and practice until the doll-like smile on our faces never come off. And it feels like one more...

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Just ask already!

Just ask already!

Have you ever have trouble asking for things from other people? Is it hard expressing what you want or need from others? It used to be super hard for me to ask for what I needed. So I wanted to share this little story with you. You know about my new co-authored book...

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For the love of the goddesses, don’t be held back.

For the love of the goddesses, don’t be held back.

Today is my mom’s birthday, she would have been 91. She’s been gone from earth for more than 25 years now, but I still think of her every single day, wondering what her new life is like, how much she would have loved to see all her kids grow up and have kids, and...

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Who said that inside peace was hard to find?

Who said that inside peace was hard to find?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how some people are able to carry themselves with a clear sense of peace. They take things as they come. They’re never part of drama. They just seem to have peaceful souls. I love being around those people, and I admire their...

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I’m pretty bloody excited!!

I’m pretty bloody excited!!

If you’re connected with me on Facebook, you know that I am jumping out of my skin to be a contributing author to this great new book, soon to be published on Amazon! Look at how gorgeous the cover is!! It’s an amazing feeling to begin to see one of my bucket list...

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What if you decided not to give a shit? 🤬

What if you decided not to give a shit? 🤬

Years ago, I gave lots of shits about what other people thought about me. Not so much anymore. It’s not that I never wonder how others will react to my behaviour and what it could mean to our relationship, or mean about me. The difference is that now I hear those...

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Fathers and Daughters

Fathers and Daughters

It's Father's Day today. In honour of my dad, on a day that fills my heart with thoughts and love for him and all he gave me, I'm sharing a short version of a piece that I wrote shortly after his passing. Writing this helped me heal immensely, yet I'm feeling some...

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When we say nothing, we say everything

When we say nothing, we say everything

With all the protests over the deaths of George Floyd and other black men and women, I am in shock once again that anyone could consider another human being as less than another. Naive perhaps as this is nothing new, people have been looked upon, judged, and punished...

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Seriously, you want me to deal with my stress? Now?

Seriously, you want me to deal with my stress? Now?

Hey diy Ass-kicker! Just checking in with you. Women are going a bit bat-shit crazy right now, trying to figure out the roller coaster of emotions they’re experiencing…the anxiety, the sadness, the frustration, the exhaustion, the frequent shifts from feeling one...

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Just one experience at a time

Just one experience at a time

As much as I’d like to ignore our current circumstances, I can’t ignore that women are struggling right now. Fear, anxiety and depression seem to top the list of feelings that are dragging us down. Even women who feel like they have all their shit together still have...

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On being a Mom…

On being a Mom…

Happy Mom’s Day!!! Today is a day to celebrate moms and what they mean to us. I’m talking to my mom all day today and recalling all the things she taught me about mom’ing…and yes, I’m sure that mom’ing is a real word! I hope your loved ones honour you today, and every...

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I know that it’s the very best time

I know that it’s the very best time

Nope. This particular time in our lives with Covid19 hanging over our heads is not the very best time. But guess what is? Having a practice! It’s the very best time to have a practice. First, what’s a practice? It’s a routine of things that you do to keep you on track...

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You have one job

You have one job

Don’t forget the Wine Parties on Zoom! Tuesdays and Fridays until C19 gives up its stranglehold on us. Register here! And if you missed it, here are my deeply discounted options for getting some support during a time when we could all use a shot of resilience! Best...

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Reaching out my hand and my heart

Reaching out my hand and my heart

Hey, it’s me. The woman who is declaring Crave More Life Coaching as an essential service to women. I seriously am, and it’s because I know it’s hard out there. I know you’re under immense pressure to manage the new normal with your head held high. I know you’re a...

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Remember to listen and love

Remember to listen and love

This is such an emotional time. The uncertainty of the whole thing hitting our world can bring up so many feelings in us, including fear, anger, and sadness. My own family is no exception. The other night, one of my kids sent a text on a family thread to say that she...

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It’s a Wine Party, plus some thoughts on chillin’ out.

It’s a Wine Party, plus some thoughts on chillin’ out.

CML’s Virtual Wine Party on Zoom! Friday April 3rd at 2 pm Red, white, or fuzzy water, your choice. Be there or be square.  Got a funny joke or meme? Bring it.  And snacks, bring snacks.  Physical distancing rules in place so no sharing permitted. And BYOW, obviously....

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We are all in this together so join me on Friday

We are all in this together so join me on Friday

These are scary times and women are worried. Worried for the health of our kids, our partners, our aging parents, our extended families, our friends. Worried that people are dying from Covid-19, and someone in our household still needs to go to work. Worried about our...

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Today, just do you!

Today, just do you!

Hey diy Ass-kicker! It’s a strange time in our world right now. So many women are overwhelmed, immobilized, and feel like complete shit from the worry and chaos that Covid19 has brought us. I’m not going to go on about all the things that you can do to decrease your...

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I was regressing quite nicely

I was regressing quite nicely

Hi everyone I’ve been thinking about COVID19 and listening to the crazy-making fear and worry that is welling up around me in my community, and I imagine in yours. While all that is happening, you’ve had a bunch of emails from me about the Inner Goddess Challenge (and...

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No rest for the wicked

No rest for the wicked

My mother used to say “no rest for the wicked” with some frequency when I was growing up. Can’t say I ever really asked her about what she meant, other than if you are the wicked type, you’re gonna always be chased. For some weird reason, those words keep jumping into...

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Help is the sunny side of control

Help is the sunny side of control

I was watching author Anne Lamott’s recent Ted talk the other day. A humorous take on life and the value of writing.One thing she said was especially interesting, and very true. “Help is the sunny side of control.” Boom. And boom again. Being a helper is a defining...

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When Cupid is a Jerk

Ya, you know it. Cupid can be a jerk. Why you say? He’s so cute and all! He is cute but not cute enough to get past a diy Ass-kicker. Cupid’s job is to connect people to love. He simply uses his arrows to shoot someone, probably in the ass, and we are supposed to be...

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Energy: is your’s switched on or off?

When I’m on my game, I have big energy and could probably move a mountain if I needed to. But when I’m off my game, I am drained, exhausted, spent. There are no mountains moved, only gazed at longingly. (I looove the mountains!) Do you have on-game and off-game days?...

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The danger of self-trash talk

I went to a yoga class recently. I'm a newbie at yoga, having never really got it before now.Other than the sweat that drips down into my eyeballs, I'm having fun! So on that day I had just rolled out my mat and towel when this very handsome young man started to set...

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It doesn’t have to be hard

Hey diy Ass-kickers! How’s it going with those new year changes you were planning to make? Thought I’d ask since it’s coming up to “the” date when people usually have dumped them for their old routines, once again feeling shitty about themselves for not following...

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Crap. I’m blowing my resolutions already.

To celebrate 2020, I’m creating some new programming that I think will rock your boat, or maybe the saying is to help you float your boat. Whatever! To help me fine tune what's coming up, I’m hoping you will click here and fill out this short little survey for me....

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Make all your wishes come true

This time of the year, I am full of goodness that I want to share with people around me. Know that as I share my holiday wishes for you, I am grateful for you being with me this year and for what you do for yourself. Your growth is inspiring! So as you go through the...

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The top 10 truths about the holidays

My little gift to you… Did you miss this? For the next three Fridays (December 6th, 13th, and 20th, basically up to Christmas), I am taking email questions about how you can improve your holidays this year, free. Ask away about what’s bugging you or where you’re stuck...

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Self-Imposed Hurdles

A big grateful shoutout to my American diy ass-kickers! Thanks for being part of my tribe and wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving! At some point in their lives, all women can see that something is happening for them that isn’t working. They need change. But when they get...

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You have a superpower

I have had a medium tell me for many years that I am part angel. Crazy, huh? When she first told me that, I immediately pictured myself with huge white feathery wings and a halo over my head. Lol! Pretty sure that halo slipped down and tried to strangle me a few times...

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Streams of love, streams of discipline

Life brings whatever the Universe wants it to, right to our front door. And when it does, we’re left with considering how to manage our response. Do we go left or do we go right? I see left as being our love for ourselves, the love the feels so good, you totally get...

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Getting to our Self Worth

Self worth. What does that mean to you? To me it’s about our inner value. Notice I said inner value, not outer. Self worth is not about what you look like, how much money you make, what your job is, or where you travel. And it’s not about doing things you think will...

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Hello Avoidance. You are my friend, right???

Welcome to the world of avoidance. I was all set to get into explaining about avoidance but realized that you already know all about it. You know what you avoid in your life and, somewhere deep down, you know why. So here is a coaching challenge for you. Write that...

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A Twist on Being Grateful

It’s Thanksgiving weekend in Canada and you gotta know that everyone will have gratitude on the brain. Me included. It’s hard to ignore being grateful when giving thanks for the abundance before us is really the purpose of the holiday. Tell me. Where is the first...

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Gentle works too

I decided to use the tag “kicking your own ass” very purposefully. To me it means that we all need to do our own inner work if we want more happy in our lives. After all, if we don’t do it, life will. Women seem drawn to the phrase, but often for the wrong reasons. In...

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Small steps to making change in your life

Any true change we make in our life can be fucking hard. Agree? That has certainly been my experience both personally and professionally. Where do you sit with changes or shifts that you know you need or want to make? Are you looking at them straight in the eyes,...

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Conflict can be simply a difference of opinion

Hey diy Ass-kickers! Remember that time when you got into an argument with someone, maybe drama ensued, it was horrible and kept you awake at night. Conflict sucks. It sucks because we women are lovers, not fighters. I seriously think it’s not in our DNA to want to...

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Being You Again

Hey diy Ass-kickers! I worked with a client once who wanted coaching to help her “get back to being me again”. She was lost in a life full of habits and routine that had her doing things she wasn’t all that happy about doing and not doing the things that she longed to...

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There is no power in not being present

Can you say that you are present to what is happening in front of you in the moment 100% of the time? Can you say you are present 75% of the time? Half the time? Or do you suck at being in the moment? It’s hard sometimes to not let your mind wander! Maybe you’re...

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Perfection comes from within

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about perfection. Perfection is a standard. A standard that we hold ourselves to in order to not feel the lack of worth that can come with its failure. Perfection can be about anything. For some it’s our looks, others our behaviour, and...

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How good is your feel good, really?

I believe that making ourselves feel good is our number one job. Partly because it’s our goddess-given right, partly because no one else can do it for us, and partly because when mama isn’t feeling good, nobody feels good and I know how important it is for women to...

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The danger of MEH

What do you say when someone asks how you are? Fine. Ok. Meh. Seldom do we say how great our life is. Why? Some of us don’t want to be seen as bragging. Some of us are afraid to be bold and jinx it. But most of us don’t say great because not every part of our life IS...

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The summer (or the lifetime) of lies.

In this summer of 2019, there seems to be a theme emerging with my clients. It’s about lies. Women lie all the time. Sometimes we are aware of it, sometime we aren’t. Most of the time, we think we are keeping our own secrets by lying but truthfully we can’t lie to...

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Are you ok with letting another summer pass you by?

Happy summer!! We are pretty much in the middle of our summer in Canada. Weather in my part of the country has been good. Weird at times, but good. What does summer mean to you? For me it’s long hot days, outdoor swimming and biking, leisurely walks, camping, farmer’s...

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It’s on you to look after yourself

I often get women coming to me for coaching support because they just don’t feel good about themselves or their lives. And as we begin the process of digging for answers, the common theme for most of those women upon reflection is that their lives are not their own....

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You really can’t practice vulnerability on Facebook

Sometimes it feels like the term vulnerability has become a bit of a buzz word. Every time I’m on social media I read about people claiming to be vulnerable with the expectation that doing so will change their lives. And practiced thoughtfully, vulnerability has the...

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Mmmmmmmanifesting…

Ever wonder about making your dreams come true? Manifesting your big desires? Our dreams are not something that we are supposed to feel shitty about because they have yet to arrive, I believe our dreams are meant to come true. Manifesting is how we can help realize...

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Choose over being chosen

Hey diy Ass-kickers!   Most of us don’t prioritize how we spend our precious time. You likely know the drill, especially if you are around my age where there are kids, grandkids, parents, extended family, community commitments, homes to maintain, and oh ya…paid...

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Moms rock!

It’s Mother’s Day! Yay! It’s our day to celebrate the super important, might I say irreplaceable, role that moms play in our world. We do that by honouring our own mothers and those women who mothered us, by letting ourselves accept all the love that we deserve for...

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Choosing perfect

Let’s face it. We women spend far too much time feeling less than perfect. Our inner mean girls live happily in our heads, telling us stuff that makes us believe untruths about ourselves, like what we can do and how we really look to others. We easily create stories...

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Hello world!

Welcome to WordPress. This is your first post. Edit or delete it, then start writing!

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A confession…

As most of you know, my dad passed away recently after a process of swift brain deterioration. To say that it was a devastating, heart-breaking experience feels trite. It was one of the most difficult things that I have ever been witness to. With my heart held...

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